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Counting wake-ups alone makes it hard to understand why they happen. For three days, record waking times, the most recent feeding, falling-asleep conditions, the surroundings, and your response.

Do not focus only on changing wake time. For 3 days, look at light and sound, naps, sleep time, and your response after waking. Change only one condition at a time so you can tell what fits your family.

Napping does not point to one clear answer for nighttime sleep. For 3 days, put wake time, light, activity, naps, and bedtime cues on one line. Then look first at the conditions that change at night.

You do not need to stop crying or feelings of anger. Briefly and clearly stop actions that threaten safety or other people's rights, such as hurting someone or throwing objects.

When an angry child throws something, accept the feeling while immediately blocking throws in dangerous directions. Put unsafe objects away, state the action to take briefly, then connect a safe alternative, such as throwing a soft ball only in a designated empty area, with repair.

Do not ignore hitting doors or walls. Move people and hazards apart, and choose a safe space and a short stop phrase.

Instead of fighting over one bite, repeatedly place a small amount of an unfamiliar food beside a familiar one. This can make meals less exhausting. Discuss concerns about growth and health separately with a medical professional.

Instead of treating a meal that lasts over an hour as a problem with your child's attitude, look separately at start and end cues, snack and activity timing, and physical discomfort. Ending a meal is a boundary that makes the next eating opportunity predictable, not a punishment through hunger.

Separate words that control how much a child eats from actions expected at the table. Choose one role per meal and respect your child's signs of fullness.