When your child lets go and runs in a parking lot or street

Do not practice in a real parking lot

If your child runs on a road or in a parking lot, move close, block the child safely, and say, "Stop. Hold my hand and walk." Traffic safety is not a choice. Before starting or backing up, drivers must check around the vehicle. Never leave a child alone in a car or at the edge of a road.

Use the same sequence when getting out of the car

Wait before opening the car door. After an adult checks the area, get out on the same side as the child. Once outside, walk close to the adult. Do not assume a driver has seen the child.

Practice the three points only away from cars

In a hall, yard, or empty open area with no vehicles, mark three points: at the door, at a boundary line, and before crossing. Give one direction, such as, "Stop," "Wait at the line," or, "Look at me and walk with me." The three points do not treat impulsive behavior or show that a child is ready to walk alone. Never test the response on a real road.

Adults should agree on roles before leaving

When two or more adults travel together, decide in advance who will hold the child's hand and who will handle bags and the car door. With several children, keep one child close to each adult. Put away phones before entering the parking lot.

Once in the car, prepare for the next transition

After arriving, do not let the child get out first. An adult should check needed bags and shoes first. When returning to the car, walk on the same side and use the same words for stopping. Repetition does not test the child. It helps the adult keep the same sequence even in a rushed moment.

Build a safety plan beyond holding hands

If holding hands is hard because of sensory needs, a disability, or communication needs, do not treat a wrist strap as a complete solution. Make an individual plan for a cue the child can tolerate, the adult's position, roles for getting in and out of a car, and information to share with the care setting. Do not threaten that a car will take the child away or show crash videos.

If it keeps happening, do not assume it is only a behavior problem

The situations that lead the same child to run can differ. Briefly note whether it happens just after getting out of a car, when the child sees a playground or someone familiar, or in a noisy or crowded place. This can show where an adult should prepare to hold close next time.

If running away happens often or interferes with daily life along with sensory, developmental, or impulse-control difficulties, consult a medical professional, developmental support service, and school or care setting. In a dangerous scene, secure physical safety first.